who was there? (and who wasn't?)

my son ruben had to have grommets inserted into his ears this morning. it's a relatively small operation taking a few minutes and requiring that he only go to a day clinic at the hospital. our day began at 7.30am with registration, then 4 hours of waiting till his turn on the "list"... 4 hours with a 2 year-old who hasn't eaten or drunk anything since last night...

anyway, 4 hours of waiting got me looking around and observing...

1. 1 out of 10 beds in the day-clinic (on this particular day) served a black patient. the rest were all white children.
   
   
2. 6 out of 10 children were accompanied by their mothers (or other female care-giver). Only 4 out of the 10 had their fathers (or male care-giver) present to help with the difficult job of pacifying a child in strange and scary circumstances... not one child was accompanied by their father (or male care-giver) alone!
   

what (if anything) do these token statistics reflect?

i think they are telling!

One, Private Health-care is still a privilege of the affluent in our country. And the affluent are still predominantly white families. No-one cries "discimination!" because the hospital is not disciminating - it will admit anyone who can pay. The issue is a much more subtle "discrimination" of economic forces that restrict access to vital resources like education and health-care. If our rainbow nation was whole, I would expect that the patients in the day-clinic would (to some extent) reflect proportionately, the people in the community in which I live.

Two, 4 out of 10 fathers present at the day-clinic during work hours, reflects a change. When I had my grommets in 30 years ago, my mother took me to the clinic alone. I'm not sure how many fathers would have been in attendance back then, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't many! So, 4/10 can be interpreted as a slow transition toward greater acceptance on the part of fathers for their share of the responsibility of parenting. But 4/10 also refelcts that there are still a majority of children whose primary care comes from a faithful woman (mother) - and that there is still a far way to go before men accept their part as co-partners in the work of raising children!

0/10 men on their own at the day-clinic can mean just one thing! they wouldn't cope... (sorry guys, am I letting the side down?)