distinction?

I've been following a discussion about a how three influential leaders of a ministry called "Exodus" - which was committed to helping Gay and Lesbain people "come out" of a homosexual lifestyle - have publically withdrawn from the work, stating that they no longer believe that it is healthy to try to change people's sexual orientation... If you're interested in reading further: go here

One of the common arguments amongst Christians who have accepted that Gay and Lesbian people really do have a different sexual orientation is the "Love the sinner, Hate the sin" position. (other's take the position that there is no such thing as a homosexual orientation - otherwise you have to explain why God would have created people like that!)

But I'm wondering how I can separate “homosexual orientation” from “homosexual activity”? i mean, what is a sexual orientation if it’s not (at some point) going to be acted upon?

why would God give us a sexual orientation if we aren’t going to express ourselves in loving, respectful, passionate, faithful ways?

i try (as a straight man) to imagine being told: “it’s really ok that you are attracted to women. Don’t feel judged about that. it’s not a sin. just don’t think too much about touching a woman - under any circumstances. no amount of love, tenderness, faithfulness will make THAT ok…”

I'm trying to imagine how i’d respond…

i can’t imagine it would be pretty. no wonder there’s so much anger expressed by gay and lesbian lobby groups. they’re incredulous, and understandably so. i’d be, if the tables were turned. the more impressive thing is that the majority of Gay and Lesbian (GLBTI) groups aren’t militant. their graciousness is notable.

maybe that’s why the ex-Exodus leaders got out - perhaps they just couldn’t live with the distinction “love the sinner, hate the sin” any longer.

did it just stop sounding credible?